Introductory Rules for the Sub
RULES For The Initiative Submissive
- The D/s litmus test of “safe, sane and consensual” shall govern any and all
D/s or BDSM activities.
- The submissive is not responsible for rules that can not reasonably be known
to her, or have not been expressly contained within the rules. Questions
regarding this matter shall be mutually agreed upon.
- The submissive should expect a reasonable explanation of any rule or
- The submissive shall have an opportunity to participate in all matters,
including her discipline, rules and education. Final decisions still rest with
- The submissive shall not lie to the master at any time when they are together
in Private. The submissive shall be permitted to lie when this is necessary in
Circumstances that have been preagreed between the Master and the submissive
(for example, where are the parties married and it is necessary to prevent the
relationship becoming known to vanilla or third parties); however The
submissive shall not be permitted to lie to the master when in the company of
other known BDSM participants (without vanilla people present) unless it is to
save the masters embarrassment. In such circumstances the submissive may not
lie in order to save her own embarrassment.
- The submissive shall not withhold information, because this is a form of lying.
- The submissive is ultimately responsible for her own safety and well being,
and shall bring to the attention of Master any and all matters that concern her.
See withholding information.
- The submissive shall NOT consider “Nothing” as an appropriate response to
“What’s wrong?”. The submissive shall not talk back to Master. This is usually
considered bratty behaviour and will be punished accordingly.
- The submissive’ body belongs to the master at all times when they are
together in Private and exists for his entire pleasure at that time. The master
may choose to inspect the submissive is body in any way he chooses at any time
when in private or quasi Private
- The submissive shall be respectful at all times to master.
- The submissive shall not manipulate Master, or any situation, in order to
achieve her own personal objectives.
Speaking is a privilege and must be earned.
Chatter giggling and small talk is allowed at Masters discretion, but again must
- Speaking by the Sub is a privilege which must be earned. Chatter giggling
and Smalltalk is encouraged at the Masters discretion.
- The submissive shall respond with “Yes, Master” to all requests made by
Master. (See “The Three Phases of a Dominant” to understsand that Master is
not in “Master” phase) . Other masters or Dominants shall be called Sir or
madam, but never master. The term of master is reserved for the submissive a
- The submissive shall execute and complete all requests made by Master in
the manner and time frame He sets forth, and agreed upon by the submissive.
- The submissive shall discuss with Master all decisions of any significance.
- The submissive shall recognize that Master makes the final decision on all
- The submissive shall have a question and answer period each day in which
she may feel free to bring any matters to Master’s attention that she wishes.
- The submissive shall submit a journal entry to Master each day. This may be
substituted by a series of photographs and a brief description of the day. At
least 50% of all photographs sent will show the submissive’s genitalia.
- The submissive shall not fear discipline from any matters contained in her
- The submissive is always to act in a manner that reflects positively upon her
- The submissive, in Master’s absence, shall always behave in a manner that
best exemplifies what she knows to be Master’s wishes.
- The submissive shall be responsible for the timely completion of any
assignments designed to promote learning or growth, or used as a discipline. A
reasonable time will be mutually agreed upon for each.
- The submissive shall provide Master with a weekly schedule of activities.
This schedule need not include every detail (ie: going to the store) but should
reasonably reflect her weekly commitments and her availability to master.
- The submissive shall not misuse her safe word. It is appropriately used only
at times in which she feels her personal safety, either physical or mental
(including fear), is compromised. As long as the submissive has obeyed this
general rule, the master will not punish the submissive for the use of a SafeWord
under any conditions.ily customs shall be developed that are mutually gratifying
and agreed upon. This recognises that the submissive must be free to use a
SafeWord at her discretion.
- The submissive shall indicate her desire or readiness for sexual contact in
one of several ways that are acceptable to Master. This includes, but is not
limited to, assuming a position of submission; voice and eye contact; mutually
agreed upon physical contact.
- The submissive is to remember that Master works out of His home, and that
time spent working is a necessity. It does not reflect a lack of desire or interest in
- The submissive shall not take it upon herself to protect Master in any way.
This does not prohibit her from defending Him to O/others.
- The submissive shall retain ownership to all toys, and be responsible for their
care, upkeep and cleanliness.
- The submissive shall refrain from using profane language at all times.
- The submissive shall not run away, literally or figuratively, from problems or
discussions. Particularly those involving Master.
Rules for Master
- Master shall not exceed any limit as established by the submissive.
- Master shall honor the submissive’s safe word at all times. Even if used in an
inappropriate manner, it shall be honored, then discussed and no discipline
- Master shall be responsible for the continued education and growth of His
submissive, and shall inquire of her from time to time as to her satisfaction with
her personal development, and growth within the lifestyle.
- Master shall protect His submissive in every way. This protection does not
extend to areas that may inhibit her growth. He shall not stifle her
independence, self reliance, or personal growth
- Master shall fully inform the submissive of any new D/s or BDSM activity,
and offer her an opportunity to ask questions. she must be fully informed in
order to offer consent.
- Sub a request the master arranges to service her (ie that she has sex) at any time,However this is entirely at master’s discretion, and repeated requests if deemed
unreasonable by Master may result in Master, requiring her to be serviced by
another person of Masters choosing (unless this is a hard limit).
- Master shall support and encourage the submissive in any endeavor that
fulfills her. This shall include interests, hobbies, career, etc.
- Master shall never discipline out of anger. Only out of love, and the desire
for His submissive to learn and grow.
- Master shall not humiliate or otherwise demean His submissive for His
personal, exclusive enjoyment, except where the submissive has expressed a
desire to be humiliated. Whether submissive has expressed a desire to be
humiliated, master has a free hand as long as the humiliation is legal.
- Master shall not lie. However, He may determine what information and
what matters to share with His submissive. This does NOT extend to a right to
mislead or obfuscate.
- Master must fully listen to and consider all requests or opinions of His
submissive. He shall make Himself available to her as needed, and shall listen
completely without prejudice.
- Master shall periodically question His submissive with sufficient diligence to
determine her state of mind, happiness and sense of self worth.
- Master shall not forget that D/s is a mutually gratifying lifestyle, and the
continued pleasure and happiness of His submissive is equally important as His
- Master shall be the authority to initiate all sexual contact.
- Master and submissive will periodically create a set of punishments listed in
order of severity and also whether only to be used in Private. Master may
reasonably add to these rules from time to time. Master may also make up
ppunishments on the fly. It is important that the dynamics of a punishment
have correctly been understood. Punishment should be used as a tool to
correct behaviour and not as a means of enjoyment for Master or the
submissive. The submissive must advise master if she is enjoying her
- Punishments will usually be on a scale of 1 to 10 and there will be a number
of punishments at each level. The option of the parties the number of levels
may be reduced.Master shall be entitled to determine the level of the
punishment. Master will seek to achieve consistency in this.
- Sleeping on the floor
- Standing in the corner
- Standing in a bowl of ice
- The number of strikes from the designated punishment toy
- Writing assignments
- Maths assignments
- Kneeling on a hard surface
- Kneeling on come on cooked rice
- Food restrictions (except where this interferes with health)
- Cold showers
- Speech restrictions-This does not include the SafeWord and normally the
submissive will be given a writing pad to communicate
- Apologies in front of other people
- Varying degrees of public humiliation
The Submissive will obey any instructions given by the Master immediately without hesitation or reservation and in an expeditious manner. The Submissive will agree to any sexual activity deemed fit and pleasurable by the Master excepting those activities that are outlined in hard limits (Appendix 2). She will do so eagerly and without hesitation.
Where possible the Submissive will try to ensure she achieves a minimum of eight hours sleep a night before meeting Master.
The Submissive will eat regularly to maintain her health and wellbeing from a prescribed list of foods.
During the Term the Submissive will wear clothing only approved by the Master. The Master will provide a clothing budget for the Submissive, which the Submissive shall utilize. The Master shall accompany the Submissive to purchase clothing on an ad hoc basis. If the Master so requires, the Submissive shall, during the Term, wear adornments the Master shall require, in the presence of the Master and any other time the Master deems fit.
The Submissive will keep herself clean and shaved and/or waxed at all times. The Master may contribute to beauty salon
The Submissive will not drink to excess, smoke, take recreational drugs or put herself in any unnecessary danger.
The Submissive will not enter into any sexual relations with anyone other than the Master. The Submissive will conduct herself in a respectful and modest manner at all times. She must recognize that her behaviour is a direct reflection on the Master. She shall be held accountable for any misdeeds, wrongdoings and misbehaviour committed when not in the presence of the Master.
Failure to comply with any of the above will result in immediate punishment, the nature of which shall be determined by the Master.
The submissive agrees to obey her Master in all respects. her mind, body, heart and time belong to Him.
The submissive accepts the responsibility of using her safeword when necessary, and trusts implicitly in her Master to respect the use of that safeword.
If a condition arises in which the submissive needs to use the safeword or gesture, her Master will assess the situation, and determine an appropriate course of action.
The submissive shall keep her body available for the use of her Master at all times.
In addition, the submissive agrees that her Master possesses the right to determine whether others can use her body and what use they may put it to.
The Master will discuss all such instances in advance with the submissive , to be certain that such play with others will not violate any established limits.
The submissive shall demonstrate her acceptance of her role of service and availability at all times while at home and at other times and places specified by her Master.
The submissive acknowledges that her Master may use her body or mind in any manner and with this in mind, the submissive may never wear, in Masters presence, (unless expressly requested by Master) anything covering her pussy or arse (save when having a period). Four example if she wears tights that must be crutchless, but she will usually be expected with stockings instead. If she is wearing knickers when she meets master she must remove them immediately (unless she’s having a period). Master may advise and not to remove knickers within the parameters of safety.
He may mildly hurt her without reason to please Himself.
The submissive enjoys the right to cry, scream quietly or beg, but accepts the fact that these heartfelt expressions will not affect her treatment. Further, she accepts that if her Master tires of her noise, he may gag her or take other actions to silence her.
The submissive will answer any questions put to her honestly and directly, and will volunteer any information her Master should know about her physical or emotional condition.
While her Master expects His submissive to speak honestly and forth rightly about anything that bothers her, she is not to interpret that as permission to whine or complain. she will phrase her concerns politely and respectfully, and then gracefully accept her Master’s judgment in these matters without further complaint.
The submissive will always speak of her Master in terms of love and respect.
She will address Him at all times as either “Master” or “Sir,” ( see Public Rules of Conduct)
The Master may give the submissive “free periods” in His presence during which the submissive may express herself openly and freely. There will be no punishments applied during “free periods.” It is understood, however, that the submissive will, during this time, continue to address her Master with respect and love at all times and that deviations from this rule are subject to punishment at a later time.
The submissive agrees that severe punishment may be assessed for any infraction of the letter or spirit of their contract, and will accept the correction gratefully. The form and extent of the punishment shall be at the Master’s pleasure, and the Master shall make it clear to the submissive that she is being punished when punishment occurs. The Master shall endeavor not to inflict physical harm upon the submissive that might require the attention of anyone outside the relationship. Master and submissive agree that in extremes either may activate a free period by using the safeword. The free period will continue until both parties agree that the problem(s) concerned are resolved.
The submissive is permitted to engage in any and all activities not actively forbidden by their contract or by later edict of the Master. All rights and privileges not otherwise noted in this contract belong to the Master, and He may exercise them as He chooses.
submissive (the submissive) will always treat her body well and protect it as it exists for my Master’s pleasure and to harm it is not only bad for submissive but disrespectful of my Master.
submissive will need permission from Master to smoke cigarettes, do drugs, eat poorly, get too little sleep and/or other dangerous activities. For Instance, if submissive is cooking, submissive is required to wear an apron to protect her body, even if Master is not allowing submissive to wear clothing at that time. (Any Master that does not want his submissive to protect her naked body around hot food is likely a bad Master and likely not a good Master to belong to!)
In private Master may kiss any part of her body that He wishes and at any time and as often as He wishes.
In private, Master may remove (or have submissive remove) any or all of my clothing at anytime. [As a submissive, when in private with your Master, you should feel at least somewhat uncomfortable clothed as you are hiding yourself from your Master].
Pussy should always be kept clean and fresh when with my Master. After all Master may wish to use it for his pleasure at anytime. If Master checks and my pussy is not smelling and/or tasting fresh and clean then submissive can expect to be punished.
submissive will exercise pussy to keep it tight for Master’s pleasure. submissive can be punished if pussy is not tight enough.
While Master is taking submissive, he may order submissive to “tighten her pussy” for a short time as he takes here. Master should feel at least some difference in pussy tightness as he is taking her. Pussy being tighter than most will be a source of pride for submissive and Master will reward submissive for having and keeping a tight pussy!
When I’m being played with and at the same time Master orders submissive to cum, submissive will do so. submissive will cum longer or harder at Master’s discretion. This called “Orgasm-on-demand” and may require some training. When submissive orgasm, submissive orgasm for my Master. By orgasming submissive show Him that the submissive respects Him and that the submissive know she must obey Him. As His submissive , when I’m being played with, submissive have no choice but to orgasm often and as hard as my Master orders.
submissive may not touch Master’s cock and/or balls ever without his permission, which she may ask for.
When kneeling in front of Master, her eyes will be on His cock, her legs at least somewhat spread and hands on his thighs, rubbing His thighs sensually and with great anticipation.
When submissive is in bed with Master, and if he is awake, submissive will need permission from Master to leave the bed.
When submissive and my Master are laying down for rest or sleep, submissive must lay in a way to always hold and caress Master and his manhood unless Master orders submissive differently.
Unless told otherwise, while Master is sexually playing with submissive,submissive must always ask my Master for permission to cum unless submissive has already been given permission to start orgasm.
Also, unless told otherwise, while Master is sexually playing with submissive,submissive must always ask my Master for permission to STOP cumming unless submissive have already been given permission to stop orgasm.
While Master is taking submissive,submissive will orgasm especially hard when Master is orgasming.
When sucking on Master’s cock and drinking down my Master’s ejaculate as He cums, submissive will continue sucking on his cock until there is no more cum coming out….That will likely be several minutes after he has finished his main orgasm. submissive may not touch the tip of Master’s cock with my mouth or tongue after this as it gets very sensitive. Should submissive fail to swallow any of Master’s cum, submissive will be punished.
Her body exists to please my Master – submissive must always be anxious to cum for my Master.
If Master says “head up” while submissive is sucking on his cock, submissive will stop sucking on his cock and pull her mouth off of his cock and wait for his next command.
When she has been ordered to cum, submissive don’t need to ask permission to cum when ready to start orgasm.
submissive will thank Him for allowing submissive to cum after submissive have had orgasm.
When my Master’s hand moves toward my pussy submissive will always instinctively spread my legs.
When in private, if Master wants any of his other Subs (female) to spank submissive or lick submissive or for submissive to lick them, while clothed or naked, submissive will comply and not resist, (although submissive must have given permission for Sub-Sub contact beforehand.)