So you want to give a blowjob?

Even the most experienced oral enthusiast will make mistakes often — without knowing it. Fellatio Fellatio (or a “blow job”) is equal parts art and skill. 

Don’t Blow! – It’s really a suck job and blowing up his penis can cause damage!

There is one key thing about giving Oral – Make eye contract!  Glance up at him just as you’re about to take his penis as far into your mouth as you can, then maintain eye contact for a few strokes or the entire time.  You want to impress him so much that he never craves another woman’s mouth again.

Foreplay: We’re constantly surprised to hear students tell us that men don’t enjoy foreplay as much as women do. This is simply untrue. Men may never actually tell you that they like foreplay, but your guy will have much more powerful and enjoyable orgasms if you engage in foreplay with him before actually giving him a blow job. The same is true for regular sex. Thankfully, foreplay is pretty easy. Your man will enjoy most of the same things that you enjoy during foreplay. Think about how you kiss him. Don’t just give him a peck on the cheek, pay some attention to the rest of his body too. Not just his neck and cheeks, try kissing him all over his stomach and back as well. You’ll even find that kissing his legs, right up to his groin can make for a really hot prelude before you get down to using my other blow job techniques.

1. Don’t assume that he’s satisfied!

Many women think that if they manage to make their guy come, he’s satisfied but the truth is that men are made to orgasm quickly and easily in order to make sure the human race survives so just because he comes… doesn’t mean your blow job was great.  If he’s constantly shocked at your new tricks and techniques and if he’s always letting you know that you’re the best he’s ever had… congratulations! but if not, it’s crucial that you learn how.

2. You don’t enjoy giving head.

If you think that blow jobs are something you “should” be doing… you’re not giving him great head…He doesn’t want you to give him an incredible blow job he wants you to LOVE giving him one. If you look as if you’re grossed out by it or that you’re just counting the seconds until it’s over or you stop saying that if you continue you’ll gag then you’ve failed. If you LOVE going down on him and he sees that there’s nothing you’d rather be doing… you’ve got a contract straight to his soul and ego and you make him feel important to you and desired. So don’t wait to be asked and don’t offer a blow job as a second prize because you don’t want him to fuck you ……make sure you ASK him if you can “please blow him” because YOU want it and it really excites you. Smile at him while he’s in your mouth and when he comes, make sure you moan like he’s a delicious treat you just can’t get enough of it….don’t suddenly look as if you’ve taken a mouthful of a gone-off raw egg.

3. You let him last too long

You need to bring him to orgasm within a few minutes any time you want, your jaw and neck can get painfully sore, lowering the quality of your oral escapade, and you’ll start to get negative connotations and negative emotions about giving head. Use the anchoring technique to create a “trigger” (only you will know) to make him orgasm almost on command any time you want. Until you learn it, you’re doing to have to try different techniques. Look for what makes him orgasm the quickest, so you can keep that secret tucked away in your pocket for “emergencies.”

4. Cover your teeth properly

Making sure your teeth don’t graze his member is a must. Wrapping your lips over your teeth is one of the most common ways that girls protect their man from “accidental scraping”… but not only does it not feel as good as the alternative, it also doesn’t look as hot. Men are highly visual, and everything he sees can affect how hot (or not) the blow job is. Instead of wrapping your lips over your teeth, try puckering them out. It takes some practice and bit of getting used to, but once you do, your blow jobs will look ten times sexier, and the sensation of your wet lits sliding up and down him feels MUCH better for Him.

5. Know your goal 

Sometimes you just want to please your man and make a more inteimate connection with him – at other times, you want to get him riled up and entice him to take you, bend you over and give it to you hard and rough. Specific techniques and “styles” of head can make a man want to relax and enjoy, or bring him to the point where he can’t take anymore and needs to have you right then and there and Most women don’t know the difference!

If he starts “doing your mouth”, your technique sucks and needs work. He should  just sit back, hold your hair and praise your incredible skills. If he wants you to finish him off with your mouth when you really want sex, then that means he wants to force you to taste and swallow his cum as part of his power play but if you want that anyway (or he thinks so) then it ceases to be a power play.

6. Use your hands

Whilst your tongue is the strongest muscle in your body and can deliver pleasure unlike anything else he’ll ever feel, you can do lots with your hands to really take your blow job to the next level. Use the corpus spongiosum, it is the big vein-like part of his cock that runs all across the shaft on the bottom of it, and can deliver massive pleasure when you know how to work it because it connects directly with  his urethra which is where his semen comes out. When he’s about to come, wrap your four fingers around him over the top and press the tip of your thumb up into this vein’s pleasure zone. Add a little pressure on it with your thumb as you jerk him back and forth. Keep doing this after he comes, and you’ll squeeze those last few drips out like a tube of toothpaste. Making sure he’s “completely empty” like this is part of his pleasure zone. (and yours)!

7. Talk …but not too much!

As much as you hate silent, boring sex… he does too. If you’re just going through the motions without looking at him, without showing any passion or without taking the time to let him know how much fun you’re having, he won’t either. A lot of women  feel shy and awkward talking dirty. They can’t say what they like or want. They don’t say when they’re having an orgasm. Don’t emulate what you hear in porn movies, he’ll recognise it as unreal and it was crap dialogue originally as porn movies don’t pay for the script.  A lot of guys in porn are much larger than the average man, and because of this, you’ll often hear a lot of adult actresses tell the guy how big he is, how much she loves big cock. If you tell an average sized guy, “You’re so big!” it’ll come over as manipulative and inauthentic and a turn off! Instead, let him know how gorgeous it looks or how delicious he tastes.

8. He doesn’t give you feedback

A good Dom will give you the kind of feedback you need and deserve. He’ll open up and experience the rawest pleasure possible with you. (If he has other subs, and you can’t open him up but the other girl does know how to “open him up,” he’ll feel that she is the best he’s ever had… even if your physical technique was better.

Feedback is best by using negative and positive reinforcement. When you’re going down on him, stop for a second and ask him if he likes what you’re doing. You can be as specific in your question as you like. The trick is that after you ask, look up at him, make eye contact and don’t continue until he responds. Once he does, get right back to him and increase your passion to make it even more pleasurable for him.

9. Adapt your techniques to his preferences 

Remember that the technique that causes one Master to swear you’re the best he’s ever had might turn another Master off completely. Some guys hate having their balls touched while others will consider it a sin to not give them proper attention. Some men would rather you focus only on the head of their cock while others need you to stimulate the entire shaft. One of the biggest differences in preferences  is in the amount of pressure (or suction) that you use.

10. You don’t get help

Ask a bisexual guy and he’ll confirm that 99% of women are nowhere near as good at giving head as they think. (See this video).  Yes, there is a formula to giving “the perfect blow job,” and you need to learn the formula if you want to pleasure your man in a way that no other woman ever has or can in the future.

11. It isn’t self lubricating
A penis isn’t a vagina and doesn’t just get wet on its own, even allowing for pre-cum. A proper BJ usually requires a torrential downpour so either get some lube that doesn’t taste like an old ashtray or or drink some water and be prepared to use all the spit you can muster. It’s not gross. This is someone you make out with!

12. Lots of Positions
There are a lot of positions you can give a blowjob in.
To perform the original position, your man needs to be standing while you’re on your knees. If you face your mouth and face toward the ceiling while performing this, you’re going to straighten out your throat. This will massively reduce your gag reflex. Next, make sure to use your hands. This isn’t just so you can also give him a hand job during the blow job, but also so you can prevent him from thrusting too deep when he gets carried away.

The “lie back” blow job position is massively different to the original position. To perform the lie back position, lie down on your bed on your back, but with your head hanging over the edge of the bed. You should try to let your head and neck relax quite a bit so your head is upside down and you’re looking toward the wall on the opposite side of the room. Depending on the height of your bed, your Master will either be standing or kneeling. While he may be super-enthusiastic and excited to start thrusting in and out of your mouth, don’t let him. You’re in a very vulnerable position, so it’s vital that he starts off remaining stationary until you get comfortable. After a few minutes, when you feel more comfortable, you can then allow him to slowly move in and out more. You’ll notice in the lie back position that you will naturally have to straighten out your throat when performing it, which again minimizes your gag reflex.

The face plow is a much more “extreme” oral sex position to try out. Your man will be in almost total control, so don’t try it out with him if you aren’t comfortable with him in control while giving him oral sex. Coupled with your man being in control, your throat will also be bent, unlike the previous two blow job positions, making it much more likely that you’ll gag. To get set up in the face plow position, you must first lie down on your back and put a few pillows under your head to prop it up. Your man will then straddle you, facing you. His knees should both be right under your armpits so that his crotch is right in your face. Then he just needs to put his penis in your mouth. While your man will have pretty much all the control in the face plow position, it’s still a good idea to start off gently and slowly, so make sure he stays still at first until you’re comfortable. Then, if you want him to take control he can pin your arms behind your head with one hand and put his other hand on the back of your head to control how deep he goes.

Master Down: Master lies down. (This is also goof if Master is watching the football and you’re bored!)  Nuzzle into his stomach and kiss him there. He’s soon start thinking “oral sex!”. Slide down the trousers to get full access to his member. Gently hold the base of his penis in your hand and then use your tongue to slowly lick it from the base right to the tip.You can try licking from the tip down to the base of his cock too, but often you’ll find it to be a little awkward. Rather than just constantly licking straight from the bottom to the top, try a few variations of this technique. Try moving your tongue from side-to-side as you make your way from the base to the tip. You’ll also find that your man loves it when you pay most of your attention to the top of his member.

Some girls think that using their hands is not actually an oral sex technique and is cheating. This is pretty ludicrous as it’s not cheating at all. In fact, your man will greatly appreciate it. The easiest way to use your hands when giving him a blow job is to just grab his shaft and slowly massage it up and down like you would when giving him regular hand job. When you combine this with using the “Tongue Twirl And Swirl” technique at the same time, you have a recipe for one happy guy. Another great blow job technique is to use your hands to massage your man’s testicles while giving him taking him in your mouth at the same time.

When you use all of these blow job techniques, your man is going to have an incredibly enjoyable orgasm. When your man eventually cums, he will experience many things that you experience too when you orgasm. One of these things is the fact that his penis will become incredibly sensitive to touch, just like your clitoris is when you are having a clitoral orgasm. So when your man starts to orgasm, make sure that you are not applying too much pressure to his penis. Instead, reduce the speed of whatever you are doing and make all movements with your tongue, mouth and hands much softer.