Additional Rules for Subs

Use of the word “No”

A sub should never, in general conversation, use of the word “No” to Master or potential Master.  A sub should be respectful enough to say things like “respectfully, I think that’s too early” or other similar phrase. This should be done even in the earliest part of a conversation about whether the sub wants to give herself to Master, in exactly the same way that it should call Master “Sir” and be respectful in conversation. A good Master will record from the outset that poor etiquette has been used and will record this in a punishment book although the application of that punishment will be discussed if it decides to give itself to the Master.

“No” is a difficult word because when in scene, “No” is  ignored by Master because he should only stop if Red is used (although Master also uses caution words).  These words are all very important to establish before getting started.  Master will know what is desired, prohibited, preferred, and negotiable.   Your partner may want to spank you for 30 minutes, or leave you in a certain position to build anticipation, however you may want to limit how long your partner can do something.  A sub might lose interest in something quickly and use a caution word.  These are words that are similar to safe words, only these will not stop the scene immediately.

Caution words are a way to communicate to your partner that you would like him/her to change to something else or to ease up on the current action.  You can have a caution word for each, such as “Cathedral” – Cathedral is good because similar words such as “Church”or “Chapel” also beginning with “C” can also act as caution words so the concept is what is used. cathedral can be a main caution word and Church or Chapel a warning to to continue the current activity with less intensity.  The safe word “Red” is used to stop the scene immediately.  This lets your partner know that s/he has reached some physical, mental, moral and/or emotion boundary and you no longer wish to continue.

Caution words can be used here to signal that you would like to continue, but may need to change direction as mentioned above.  There is a great deal of trust involved in practicing BDSM and you will need to respect your subs’s limits.

The “Red” safe word allows all parties to continue in the game, still using the words, “no” and “stop” as a part of the play without interrupting the scene or gameplay. Choose a safe word/phrase that has nothing to do with the game you are playing and something you would have no reason to say given the circumstances.  Some things to avoid when choosing your safe word are words such as “yes”, “no”, “harder”, “more”, “less”, “ouch” and “go” and should also only be used individually such as Red so that they can be distinuished from other use such as “Is my Arse Red?” (Similarly avoid homographs and homonyms as these can be confusing.  If a word can be mistaken, it most likely will be!

Very long or multi-syllabic words need to be avoided as caution and safety words need to be  short, fast and can be clearly understood and simple so that they are not forgotten in sub-space. Master Xoobs likes Cathedral because just like many are painted Red, many dungeons have inverted crucifixes which act as a reminder.

Gestures: For those of you who will be participating in games that restrict your ability to speak, you will want to establish a safe gesture and a caution gesture….and not the middle finger! or tapping, struggling and biting. They should be clear, mutually understood, agreed upon and easily executed as well as clearly visible (Clicking the finger is good as a Red gesture if your sub can do it because they can do it when tied and can do it repeatedly)


The Submissive will obey any instructions given by the Master immediately without hesitation or reservation and in an expeditious manner. The Submissive will agree to any sexual activity deemed fit and pleasurable by the Master excepting those activities that are outlined in hard limits (Appendix 2). She will do so eagerly and without hesitation.


Where possible the Submissive will try to ensure she achieves a minimum of eight hours sleep a night before meeting Master.


The Submissive will eat regularly to maintain her health and wellbeing from a prescribed list of foods.


During the Term the Submissive will wear clothing only approved by the Master. The Master will provide a clothing budget for the Submissive, which the Submissive shall utilize. The Master shall accompany the Submissive to purchase clothing on an ad hoc basis. If the Master so requires, the Submissive shall, during the Term, wear adornments the Master shall require, in the presence of the Master and any other time the Master deems fit.

Personal Hygiene/Beauty:

The Submissive will keep herself clean and shaved and/or waxed at all times. The Master may contribute to beauty salon

Personal Safety:

The Submissive will not drink to excess, smoke, take recreational drugs or put herself in any unnecessary danger.

Personal Qualities:

The Submissive will not enter into any sexual relations with anyone other than the Master. The Submissive will conduct herself in a respectful and modest manner at all times. She must recognize that her behaviour is a direct reflection on the Master. She shall be held accountable for any misdeeds, wrongdoings and misbehaviour committed when not in the presence of the Master.

Failure to comply with any of the above will result in immediate punishment, the nature of which shall be determined by the Master.


General Rules

The SUBMISSIVE agrees to obey her MASTER in all respects. her mind, body, heart and time belong to Him. The SUBMISSIVE accepts the responsibility of using her safeword when necessary, and trusts implicitly in her MASTER to respect the use of that safeword. If a condition arises in which the SUBMISSIVE needs to use the safeword or gesture, her MASTER will assess the situation, and determine an appropriate course of action.

The SUBMISSIVE shall keep her body available for the use of her MASTER at all times. In addition, the SUBMISSIVE agrees that her MASTER possesses the right to determine whether others can use her body and what use they may put it to. The MASTER will discuss all such instances in advance with the SUBMISSIVE , to be certain that such play with others will not violate any established limits. The SUBMISSIVE shall demonstrate her acceptance of her role of service and availability at all times while at home and at other times and places specified by her MASTER. The SUBMISSIVE acknowledges that her MASTER may use her body or mind in any manner He wishes within the parameters of safety. He may mildly hurt her without reason to please Himself. The SUBMISSIVE enjoys the right to cry, scream quietly or beg, but accepts the fact that these heartfelt expressions will not affect her treatment. Further, she accepts that if her MASTER tires of her noise, he may gag her or take other actions to silence her.

The SUBMISSIVE will answer any questions put to her honestly and directly, and will volunteer any information her MASTER should know about her physical or emotional condition. While her MASTER expects His SUBMISSIVE to speak honestly and forth rightly about anything that bothers her, she is not to interpret that as permission to whine or complain. she will phrase her concerns politely and respectfully, and then gracefully accept her MASTER’s judgment in these matters without further complaint.

The SUBMISSIVE will always speak of her MASTER in terms of love and respect. She will address Him at all times as either “MASTER” or “Sir,” ( see Public Rules of Conduct)

The MASTER may give the SUBMISSIVE “free periods” in His presence during which the SUBMISSIVE may express herself openly and freely. There will be no punishments applied during “free periods.” It is understood, however, that the SUBMISSIVE will, during this time, continue to address her MASTER with respect and love at all times and that deviations from this rule are subject to punishment at a later time.

The SUBMISSIVE agrees that severe punishment may be assessed for any infraction of the letter or spirit of their contract, and will accept the correction gratefully. The form and extent of the punishment shall be at the MASTER’s pleasure, and the MASTER shall make it clear to the SUBMISSIVE that she is being punished when punishment occurs. The MASTER shall endeavor not to inflict physical harm upon the SUBMISSIVE that might require the attention of anyone outside the relationship. MASTER and SUBMISSIVE agree that in extremes either may activate a free period by using the safeword. The free period will continue until both parties agree that the problem(s) concerned are resolved.

The SUBMISSIVE is permitted to engage in any and all activities not actively forbidden by their contract or by later edict of the MASTER. All rights and privileges not otherwise noted in this contract belong to the MASTER, and He may exercise them as He chooses.

SUBMISSIVE (the SUBMISSIVE) will always treat my body well and protect it as it exists for my MASTER’s pleasure and to harm it is not only bad for SUBMISSIVE but disrespectful of my MASTER.

SUBMISSIVE will need permission from my MASTER to smoke cigarettes, do drugs, eat poorly, get too little sleep and/or other dangerous activities. For Instance, if SUBMISSIVE am cooking, SUBMISSIVE am required to wear an apron to protect my body, even if MASTER is not allowing SUBMISSIVE to wear clothing at that time. (Any MASTER that does not want his SUBMISSIVE to protect her naked body around hot food is likely a bad MASTER and likely not a good MASTER to belong to!)

In private MASTER may kiss any part of my body that He wishes and at any time and as often as He wishes.

In private, MASTER may remove (or have SUBMISSIVE remove) any or all of my clothing at anytime. As a SUBMISSIVE, when in private with your MASTER, you should feel at least somewhat uncomfortable clothed as you are hiding yourself from your MASTER.

My pussy should always be kept clean and fresh when with my MASTER. After all MASTER may wish to use it for his pleasure at anytime. If MASTER checks and my pussy is not smelling and/or tasting fresh and clean then SUBMISSIVE can expect to be punished.

SUBMISSIVE will exercise my pussy to keep it tight for MASTER’s pleasure. SUBMISSIVE can be punished if my pussy is not tight enough.

While MASTER is taking SUBMISSIVE, he may order SUBMISSIVE to “tighten my pussy” for a short time as he takes me. MASTER should feel at least some difference in pussy tightness as he is taking me.

My pussy being tighter than most will be a source of pride for SUBMISSIVE and MASTER will reward SUBMISSIVE for having and keeping a tight pussy!

  1. When I’m being played with and at the same time MASTER orders SUBMISSIVE to cum, SUBMISSIVE will do so. SUBMISSIVE will cum longer or harder at MASTER’s discretion. This called “Orgasm-on-demand” and may require some training. When SUBMISSIVE orgasm, SUBMISSIVE orgasm for my MASTER. By orgasming SUBMISSIVE show Him that SUBMISSIVE respect Him and that SUBMISSIVE know SUBMISSIVE must obey Him. As His SUBMISSIVE , when I’m being played with, SUBMISSIVE have no choice but to orgasm often and as hard as my MASTER orders.

SUBMISSIVE may not touch my MASTER’s cock and/or balls ever without his permission.

When kneeling in front of MASTER, my eyes will be on His cock, my legs at least somewhat spread and hands on His thighs, rubbing His thighs sensually and with great anticipation.

When SUBMISSIVE am in bed with my MASTER, and if he is awake, SUBMISSIVE will need permission from my MASTER to leave the bed.

When SUBMISSIVE and my MASTER are laying down for rest or sleep, SUBMISSIVE must lay in a way to always hold and caress His testicles unless MASTER orders SUBMISSIVE differently.

Unless told otherwise, while MASTER is sexually playing with SUBMISSIVE,SUBMISSIVE must always ask my MASTER for permission to cum unless SUBMISSIVE have already been given permission to start my orgasm.

Also, unless told otherwise, while MASTER is sexually playing with SUBMISSIVE,SUBMISSIVE must always ask my MASTER for permission to STOP cumming unless SUBMISSIVE have already been given permission to stop my orgasm.

While MASTER is taking SUBMISSIVE,SUBMISSIVE will orgasm especially hard when MASTER is orgasming.

When sucking on MASTER’s cock and drinking down my MASTER’s ejaculate as He cums, SUBMISSIVE will continue sucking on his cock until there is no more cum coming out….That will likely be several minutes after he has finished his main orgasm. SUBMISSIVE may not touch the tip of MASTER’s cock with my mouth or tongue as he orgasms and after he orgasms for a number of minutes, as it gets very sensitive. Should SUBMISSIVE fail to swallow any of my MASTER’s cum, SUBMISSIVE will be punished.

My body exists to please my MASTER – SUBMISSIVE must always be anxious to cum for my MASTER.

When alone with MASTER, unless he has told SUBMISSIVE to do otherwise, SUBMISSIVE am to ask to suck down his cock’s ooze every 30 minutes or so if we’re playing, every 60 minutes or so if we’re not. MASTER may want SUBMISSIVE to continue sucking longer on his cock at that time. If MASTER is taking SUBMISSIVE,this rule does not apply.

It is always MASTER who determines how long and how often SUBMISSIVE suck on his cock, not me. The exception is if SUBMISSIVE am physically injured in a way that affects the fellatio (such as my mouth is cramping up.)

NO teeth to ever be felt on MASTER’s cock EVER or I’ll receive dozens of very hard spanks on my very deserving bottom, then SUBMISSIVE will resume sucking on my MASTER’s cock. This can be repeated an unlimited number of times.

If MASTER says “head up” while SUBMISSIVE am sucking on his cock, SUBMISSIVE will stop sucking on his cock and pull my mouth off of his cock and wait for his next command.

When I’ve been ordered to cum, SUBMISSIVE don’t need to ask permission to cum when I’m ready to start my orgasm.

SUBMISSIVE will thank Him for allowing SUBMISSIVE to cum after SUBMISSIVE have had orgasm.

When my MASTER’s hand moves toward my pussy SUBMISSIVE will always instinctively spread my legs.

When in private, if MASTER wants any of his other Subs (female) to spank SUBMISSIVE or lick SUBMISSIVE or for SUBMISSIVE to lick them, while clothed or in my panties, SUBMISSIVE will comply and not resist, although SUBMISSIVE must have given permission for Sub-Sub contact beforehand.

Private Rules of Conduct

On days when her MASTER is at work, the SUBMISSIVE will greet Him wearing her collar, wrist restraints, and a shirt belonging to her MASTER. She will wear no underclothes in His presence unless given permission. On days when the MASTER is home, the SUBMISSIVE will wear whatever is deemed appropriate by her MASTER. When in the same room as her MASTER, the SUBMISSIVE will ask permission before leaving the room, explain where she is going, and why. At mealtimes, the SUBMISSIVE will serve her MASTER, and sit at His feet while He eats. Food for the SUBMISSIVE will be given by the MASTER at His discretion. When speaking to her MASTER or being spoken to by Him, the SUBMISSIVE will assume a demeanour of alert attention and will meet her MASTER’s eyes directly, unless instructed to do otherwise.

Public Rules of Conduct

The SUBMISSIVE will conduct herself at all times in such a manner as to not call attention to MASTER and SUBMISSIVE. she will call her MASTER by His name only if the use of “Sir” is inappropriate. The SUBMISSIVE will defer to her MASTER in public. The SUBMISSIVE may dress herself, but must seek approval of any clothing she wishes to wear in public. Unless specifically stated otherwise, the SUBMISSIVE may not wear panties when with MASTER in public.

Work Rules of Conduct

No part of their agreement is intended to interfere with the SUBMISSIVE ‘s career. The MASTER wishes the SUBMISSIVE to work hard and honestly, in general to conduct herself in a manner calculated to bring honour and respect to them both. During periods of work, the SUBMISSIVE is permitted to schedule appointments, to dress in a manner appropriate to work, and to leave the house when necessary. During periods of work, the SUBMISSIVE may work(inc overtime) without the expressed permission of her MASTER.

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