and what do I wear?
The first question is easy. Munches often take place at restaurants, bars and coffee shops, as well as at private houses and you may well have been present whilst one was taking place without realising this. There are “open” munches and “invitation” munches.
In an open munch, the organizer usually reserving a large table, a back area, or a private room. People are free to arrive and leave within the specified hours. The primary purpose is socializing. You will arrive in normal vanilla attire and will stay in that throughout and there will be no signs of floggers, handcuffs or any other BDSM attire.
In an invitation munch, the munch is held in a private room and has a prominent “Private Function – by invitation only” notice on the door and usually a portable wardrobe rail (draped) or screen just inside the door to block the view if the door is opened. There is usually also a gatekeeper who “guards” the door. Many invitation munches have an access password to prevent casual gatecrashers. People are expected to arrive before a certain time and leave only after a certain time, although latecomers are admitted (usually on punishment of being spanked in front of everyone (or usually the sub takes the punishment for both Master and sub). The reason for “arrive by” times is because people will arrive in vanilla (often with sports bags) and will then change into BDSM attire. They will also leave in vanilla clothing. (Nudity is not usually permitted at pubs or restaurants, although if a sub arrives late, her skirt may be raised or her trousers and knickers dropped to be publically spanked (usually facing away from the room so that she is on full display). (Nudity also arises whilst getting changed as most rooms are not big enough for changing rooms. (There are an amazing number of sports pavilions used for this purpose where the organiser brings wine and snacks which are purchased and where the pavilion is booked in the name of a ficticious sports club). Invitation munches have demonstrations from local organizations or individuals. Some Invitation munches have “outings” where BDSM members who have never participated in public BDSM are able to do so in a safe environment. (Sharing of subs is not usually permitted as it is difficult to control- these events are best left for meetings in private homes or where an entire venue can be exclusively booked by the BDSM group organiser.
Beware that open munches may also be in a private room with gatekeeper and password, so check the protocol before stripping off and putting on BDSM attire!
Munches are meant to help those who are curious about BDSM meet others, become more comfortable, and better informed. Munches can also be a place to get advice, or pass on anecdotes about BDSM experiences. Munches come with food, Sloshes (Liquid Munches) just have drinks. They are held, usually early enough for conversation to be possible, in bars. Munches held in public areas are difficult to manage because of the possibility of being overheard by predators or other undesirables. Open munches are informal affairs that discourage fetish attire or BDSM play and are designed just to be social and for those curious in BDSM to attend. Invitation unches may be held as a get-together prior to a more formal play party, or other groups may be open to the wearing of collars or pride emblems; as such, covert Master/slave interactions, fetish dress, or other BDSM play may be observed. Often even in open munches, the subs will wear discrete collars. By UK tradition, black ribbon on the collar is indicative that a sub belongs to a Master and red ribbon is indicative of looking for a Master, although may subs choose to be “anonymous” and wear no ribbon, and it should be assumed that they belong to a Master unless they volunteer otherwise. Some munches may target a specific group; such as women, or curious submissives.
Each munch is different and reflects the personality of the group that attends it.