INTERESTED IN TRYING BONDAGE? – YOU’VE COME TO THE RIGHT PLACE
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I WANT TO BE A SUB – DO I NEED EXPERIENCE?
No. Just Apply.
I WANT TO BE A SUB – CAN WE MEET?
Apply and we’ll be happy to meet
Dungeon, Your place, AirBNB hired venue, Domme’s Club, all sorts of possibilities…..and we can decide.
(NB: Before I come to your place, I need to see proof of address (utility bill etc) to ensure address is real.).
(NB: If you’re wanting a Dungeon or AirBNB venue hired, we will discuss this …. either you send me the hire fee in advance or you hire and send me proof of hire…..this is to ensure you’re serious!)
I WANT TO BE A SUB – CAN I MEET TODAY?
Unlikely to be practicable. Master can sometimes meet at very short notice but this is rare.
Being a Sub is a lifestyle……and security concerns for Master as well as you are difficult to overcome very quickly …..but hotel rooms are usually OK.
I WANT TO BE YOUR SUB – CAN I DO SO TODAY?
Usually you should meet the Dom/Master several times and play before you agree to become a sub ….. a first session should be an afternoon and overnight ………then try out a weekend or three days …..do this 2 or three times ……then consider longer with the Dom.
You will discuss with Master what is going to happen and this will be in a written contract.
This helps spell out from the beginning what your Hard Limits are.
Expect to bring ID with Signature to any Scene as Master will want to check things out.
The contract should allow you both to exit gracefully at the dissolution of the relationship.
I know you don’t want to think of the ending right when you are just beginning, but it’s an absolute necessity to make sure you have a clear plan. It should cover whether this is a live in or live out relationship
How long will you have to move out, find a new job, home, etc. should the two of you part?
I WANT TO BE A SUB – CAN I JUST BE SPANKED?
You need to be what be sure about how finances will be allotted for things like visits to Dungeons – you can sometimes expect to pick up half the cost of the first meet but then expect to share costs of hiring Dungeons, but this is something to discuss at the first meeting
Expect to host or be hosted in a normal house for longer term meets…. or to host yourself.
Don’t just go on good faith.
ARE YOU SAFE & EXPERIENCED?
Make sure the Dom/Domme is experienced – there’s lots of Dominants (particularly male) just looking for wierd sex and who know nothing about being a Dominant or Subspace or aftercare and sub-drop ……….you will risk real abuse or personal injury if you use one of these.
It takes years before a Dom/Domme really knows what they’re doing.
If the Dom is under 30 …..our advice is Run Away as fast as you can.
We’ve yet to find many really good Doms/Dommes under 45.
STDs and BIRTH CONTROL?
Make sure you’re on birth control – many subs accidentally get pregnant because the scene runs into unexpected but entirely consensual unplanned territory.
And expect to go through an STD Check.
Master should have one
Master will only have bare sex with a very very close circle of people ……otherwise you can expect safe sex.
Master will be rigid about this.
Expect to use Femidoms as well as Condoms. Femidoms are good for a single Dom session, Condoms good if you’re having multiple Dom’s screwing you as whilst you’re protected, the Dom’s will be encountering each others body fluids within the Femidom.
Master will expect to know exactly what your sex life is so that he can properly manage risk.
Master will also inspect for things indicating
IF YOU ARE HIV or HERPES POSITIVE, YOU ARE REQUIRED BY LAW TO TELL MASTER BEFORE YOU MEET IN A CLEAR WAY.