Your experience in the dungeon or bedroom with BDSM should be the same. Youe subspace experience will be a state of intense excitement and happiness induced by endorphins and which gives you the same out of body spiritual experience that people got in the 1960s and 1970s taking LSD – but without the underlying addiction
Your experience in the dungeon or bedroom with BDSM should be the same. You’ll have adrenalin shooting around your body because of the excitement and fear or arriving which will send you high and your endorphins will start. These were the survival hormones for early caveman which meant that he could hunt, but could also run away – the endorphins made him think fast and reduced the feeling of pain if he was running on rough ground. It’s the same in the dungeon, except that you won’t be able to run away. …….and it’s also why you need someone who knows what they’re doing! I will gradually introduce you to things which will start the endorphin rush and will keep these flowing increasingly ……so you’ll be as high as a kite without the need for drugs, but that also means that you’ll enter a thing called Subspace…….
Sub-Space is a state of euphoria (a feeling or state of intense excitement and happiness) which is induced by endorphins released from exercise and from mild pain (yes mild! pain). You should negotiate Aftercare before the scene or play starts. The fact that the body seems to release these endorphins in measured “loads” is a key to understanding how to manipulate the body to produce these loads and release them into the body and brain region when the load is ready.
Although originally believed that endorphin loads release in their entirety, we now know that this is not entirely true and that there is a link and interchange with adrenalin. So, on a roller coaster, there is one big endorphin release and then lots of smaller ones (and this is because the body about ten minutes to re-generate a complete new set of endorphins) and there is also a lot of little releases of adrenalin. After the body releases a load into the system, it needs at least ten minutes of some sort of stimulation it can effectively receive more.
When a scene first starts, there are no endorphins in the submissive and even fairly light torment is very stingy and frankly painful but fortunately, the body’s reserve endorphin load is released after just a few minutes of even relatively mild stimulation building to a mild climax, and suddenly the pain threshold of the submissive clearly rises. Now, the subject can easily tolerate what may have been pushing the limits before, so what was making her jump around and squirm is now a more pain-tolerant state is Level One (although there is no altered state of consciousness yet, just an increased pain threshold).
The typical route is stimulation to release endorphins followed by sensation play, light spanking or paddling, etc and it does not have to be nearly the intensity of the stimulation that caused the release of the last endorphin load……. so an increase in stimulation over a five-minute span up to a measured “climax” will trigger the body to release the freshly-prepared load, and it is vital for the Dominant to know the submissive’s current pain threshold, and to push them over a new edge in a very measured way.
With a mild amount of play over the next 10 minutes, and an increase over a five-minute span, you’ll get another hit of adrenalin.
Following this, another ten minutes of mild, easy stimulation provokes the body into generating the next load and it is important at this stage that things are kept well below the pain threshold you’ve now created, and it’s usually enough for a little intense whack every so often, about a minute apart, and this keeps the adrenaline build-up to a minimum. Then after a relaxing ten minutes, intensity is again created by five minutes of building up the intensity again to well above the previous level. The bottom’s pain threshold is pretty high now and she can take a lot more before the body interprets this as being “in crisis” and triggers the next endorphin release. Finish off with 10 seconds to a minute of a very intense, over-the-edge push, and the body will inject that next load.
Your sub is now at Level Three, and will be feeling a little bit woozy, and in a more relaxed condition than before, more low moans and groans, and lower inhibitions. Sexual play with the bottom should occur around Level Three or Four.
Again, applying ten minutes of any relatively mild stimulation followed by a five-minute build and a 10- to 15-second intense climax well beyond the previous one, you will release the next endorphin load. As a sub you’ll enter true sub-space – a very nice Level Four head space when there is a very definite altered state of consciousness where you’re compliant and want to let out your true submissive. This is now countered , however, by the largest charges of adrenaline he has received so far, the result of the intense climax just used to push him over this edge. She will be still quite communicative and quick in reaction time, possibly hypersensitive so that a small whack with a paddle, cane, or whip can now generate a huge amount of twitching or jerking of the subject’s body.
There will now be a ten minute “treading water” period for the top, the moans and groans will be longer and deeper, the body often limp in its restraints, and the reactions to the occasional harder strikes will be obvious. This is the top’s finest time: she can still relax and not exert herself very hard, yet produce fine moans of ecstasy from stimulation with hardly any provocation! Harder occasional strikes are welcomed, and the reactions should be encouraging!
From Level Five, she will be unable to concentrate for long on what she is doing with an intense passionate and inhibition-free indulgence and heights of ecstasy never before experienced (At this stage, male subs usually lose their erections).
After this ten minute endorphin replenishment period, it is important to be very sensitive to the limit levels crossed earlier. The sub can no longer properly assess pain and the assessment of the Dominant is now critical about the intensity for these five-minute intensity builds. She will have a very high pain threshold at this time, but also will be fairly groggy and less able to communicate a safe word. In fact, she may be so compliant that she might not use the safe word even if she ought to use it so the Dominant has a significant obligation to the safety of the submissive at this stage and must act with finesse and sensitivity to what is going on (and this is why you don’t want some newbie pretend Master dealing with you because they could cause you real harm.) I’ve seen subs at this stage who like breathe-control wanting to strangle themselves at this stage and where I;ve had to remove collars entirely just to be safe.
This will result in a final 10- to 30- second climactic build in intensity for a final endorphin load will push the submissive into Level Five: a state of supreme ecstasy, docility, and where she’s as spaced out as with an LSD trip. Very limp and relaxed very suddenly and very clearly in an altered state of consciousness.
At the early stages of play sessions, Level 4 is as far as it is safe to go. In time, Level 5 can be extended and extended into hours of ecstasy, [Extended Play] but for now it’s time to wrap her in a warm blanket and enter After-Care [see Aftercare] and [Aftercare 2].
Since a subspace removes any intense feelings of pain, a submissive may ask their partner to hurt them beyond their complete understanding which can result in injury. A subspace is a natural high without risk of addiction. Blissful feelings of connection create intense uppers and unfortunately, those feelings eventually come down. This is where emotional and mental safety is important. This drop in emotions creates exhaustion, incoherence, and incoordination. It may also cause men to fall asleep as men release norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, nitric oxide (NO), and the hormone prolactin after ejaculation and prolactin, oxytocin, and vasopressin cause extreme drowsiness. Women’s brains don’t produce the same levels and whilst a man’s breathing and heart rate return to normal after an orgasm, a woman’s body remains active for much longer after an orgasm, causing them to lie awake.
Since a subspace Level 5 removes any intense feelings of pain, a submissive may ask their partner to hurt them beyond their complete understanding which can result in injury……. so it’s only for the experienced Master.
A subspace is a natural high without risk of addiction. Blissful feelings of connection create intense uppers and unfortunately, those feelings eventually come down. This is where emotional and mental safety is important. This drop in emotions creates exhaustion, incoherence, and incoordination. It may also cause men to fall asleep as men release norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, nitric oxide (NO), and the hormone prolactin after ejaculation and prolactin, oxytocin, and vasopressin cause extreme drowsiness. Women’s brains don’t produce the same levels and whilst a man’s breathing and heart rate return to normal after an orgasm, a woman’s body remains active for much longer after an orgasm, causing them to lie awake.
Why do I go on and on about the aftercare? The work of putting endorphins into the subject’s body is finished, right? Well, yes, but you have also succeeded in putting very, very large amounts of adrenaline into her system ……. and adrenaline is tricky stuff.
Even at Level Four, there’s enough adrenalin to burn off for at least 10 to 20 minutes and the sub will suffer a number of adrenaline crashes [Adrenalin Crash], which are intense. This uncontrolled sub-drop (coming down from sub-space in an uncontrolled manner), also results in mood swings which are intense and even quite frightening and when body temperature isn’t controllable (and we’ve all seen this with victims of severe shock) – keep her warm, held and comforted and if you don’t care enough for the bottom to cuddle and caress them for up to half an hour, you probably shouldn’t be taking them past Level 2 or playing with them at all. She may even want to leave…..and the Dominant must be very firm about this.
So what is sub-space like?
The sympathetic nervous system responds to BDSM because of the typical inclusion of pain and pleasure. A release of the natural chemicals epinephrine, endorphins, and enkephalins contribute to drug inducing emotions. These chemicals are a part of the fight or flight response which stimulates a morphine-like result. As a submissive, the chemicals increase pain tolerance, creating a floating feeling when pain is introduced. For many, a subspace creates a drunk or high feeling — pain is gone, problems disappear, and your current state of mind is a dizzy of joyful feelings.Imagine an out-of-body experience — that’s a subspace. For some individuals, getting into a subspace won’t take much pain or physical stimulation, while it may take others much longer. When your partner becomes less verbal, this is typically the number one sign that your sub has reached a level of subspace. Some are completely unable to speak and move or can be feral and uncontrolled, some weep because of the amount of energy and euphoria experienced.
Master should holding the sub and letting her hug you back and should comfort her and tell her to relax. She is compliant, docile and open to receiving instructions at this point, she will also tense up again from the adrenaline. Keep reminding her to relax.\
As the bottom begins to relax after a while, She may experience a frightening “falling off a cliff” feeling that makes her tense again, or “blackness” as the endorphins relax the optic nerve. This is a side effect of the chemicals burning off. The Master’s job is to reassure the sub that these experiences are completely normal, to let go and pass through it. The sub has to relax through the sensation of falling or blackness with the understanding that this is quite normal and is a common experience. Once she does that, having “relaxed through it,” she will be “in it” after that point, and will relax deeply, often seeing beautiful technicolor visions and dreamlike landscapes, spaces, and places.
Once this happens, sub needs only a little more loving attention, and can then be left bundled in a blanket somewhere on their own to float in a happy bubble, very possibly for hours!
There is another factor that can produce an altered state of consciousness far, far beyond even that of the most extreme endorphin experience. This is experienced by submissives whose intense focus upon their Master or Mistress (their Dominant) – and upon pleasing them – eventually leads to a hallucinogenic kind of altered state known commonly in the BDSM community as “flying.” This word has an almost mythological aura in the scene for very good reasons! It is probably the most profound experience one can have as a submissive. It involves a state of intense devotion towards the dominant (who is not just a mere “top” at this point) that borders upon religious worship, with complete trust and a total commitment to please and satisfy the Dom thoroughly. Through the attainment of a complete selflessness and focus on the dominant, a transformation takes place that is very, very deep, almost trance-like. It can become so profound as to produce an extended, blissful hallucinogenic state. Many have reported even seeing visions under the spell of this “flying” effect. All have attested to the profound sense of peace and bliss they have experienced while even near the edge of this state.\
This flying state can be attained by some with very little endorphin content in their systems. (Some claim no endorphins are required, but I’m quite certain most folks have attained at least a level Three or Level Four endorphin high in order to trigger the total release of inhibitions that this psychological state seems to require, at least generally speaking.) With practice, the release into this “flying” submissive-space should come easier and easier, eventually with even a mere suggestion triggering the effect for some with very little or even no endorphin content being in the picture. COMBINED with the Level Five or Six endorphin head space, there likely can be no deeper state of ecstasy possible for the bottom — short of total enlightenment! Until such an experience of full enlightenment can be accomplished, perhaps the attainment of this interim bliss is acceptable, and certainly should be considered an attractive and enjoyable state to be in! The secret ingredients are: intense focus; a commitment to please the dominant utterly; and, complete and total devotion. These ingredients – with some endorphins in the mix – should produce a quite satisfying effect for both the submissive and the dominant.